Lee Baucum wrote:But at some places, they look at the size of the amp and say, 'that's too much'.
That's just nuts. I can play quietly, using my big ol' Evans amp. The volume knob does a great job....of turning down the volume.

A big old Evans, Session 400, or Twin Reverb would be hard at the places I'm talking about. Would have to run amp barely cracked on to keep at the volumes they want. They mostly insist on small amps on a small stand (which they provide), and prefer people to run direct into the PA through modelers. Their own staff typically runs the sound, and they keep a tight lid on the overall volume. The place that asks for stands is OK with my amp on the floor because they know I won't blow them away - it has taken a few gigs with them to generate that trust. But they have had some bad experiences with people coming in with large amps and blowing the patrons' hair back while they're eating dinner.
For the most part, I'm talking about upscale dinner places, small brew pubs, small wine bars, coffee houses, and the like. A big part of this is that, for the type of music I prefer to play, the audience is older. Most of the loud music around here centers around hip hop, techno/dance music, or college/grunge/classic rock for college students. Country, blues, folk, jazz, bluegrass, Americana, and so on, are not the flavors of the month. There are audiences for this kind of stuff, but mostly older and things are expected to be fairly temperate. It doesn't really bother me - it is possible to deal with this stuff by simply scaling down. A Princeton or Deluxe Reverb sounds great at lower volumes, for steel or guitar.
Another issue is that the space at many of the places I'm playing these days is pretty tight. For many of these places, full drums are a no-go. Maybe a cajon or snare/hat with brushes. Pedal steel doesn't fit at some, and does at others. So sometimes it's guitar and/or lap steel. I'm a musician - I want to play. So I do what I can.
This is the way a LOT of gigs have gone around here. Lots of singles, duos, trios. Full band gigs are getting to be hard to come by. And if you're too loud, you will not be asked back. One place actually told a guitarist he couldn't use the large amp he showed up with. He left and they didn't play.
Welcome to the post-covid world. Around here, anyway. This ain't Texas.