SOLVED TWO WAYS using your suggestions thanks
1) EXPENSIVE 400++
On a single input amp with effects loop, in this case a Quilter 200 series head, steel goes to the input, and I run the guitar through an Effectrode Blackbird preamp to the effects return. Other preamps and guitars with active electronics also work. Pros: balanced, and separate eq control. Cons: cost and another power cord.
Side note: I use this pedal a lot to warm up any Class D amp, with 3 12AX7 tubes on board it 'is' a tube amp now without the weight. Also has a gain channel that gives authentic tube distortion. Recommended.
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2) CHEAP $39.
Saturnworks passive summer/mixer pedal. You can adjust each insrument until they balance and there is very little vol/tone interference. Pros: $ and small footprint. Con: you share the amp EQ
[[[[ EDIT: I play the guitar and steel often in the same song with the guitar at my side on a mount. On the sometimes teeny stage AB switching is a cluster**** on the fly. I know that you cant just combine the signals they wreak havoc. Some of these answers seem like a solution THANKS but Im lame and will have to digest what they mean. It is still an EQ compromise into one channel, but I get to try some of my 'darlings' that sound so good at home.
WHAT ABOUT fooling an amp that has an input and also a send and return loop? Havent found a way to use both.]]]]]]
Is there a trick? I play both instruments through my favorite single input rig(s) with A/B switch but when both steel and guitar are in the same tune, its awkward. not to mention the cable clutter. Thanks in advance.
