Thinking of b0b, one year later...
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Thinking of b0b, one year later...
I wanted to mention that it's been a year since b0b left us. I miss him.
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Me, too
I wanted to write some big thing about him today and I'm just too sad.
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I inherited the Forum Store that our Dad created to help support the needs of the steel guitar community. He would go to the office every day and used two desktop computers - one for the Forum, one for the Store.
Every day I start up each computer. When I walk away, each quickly enters “sleep mode”. Bob set each to have a carousel of photos as the “wallpaper”. The Store computer rotates through photos of Bob with friends and family. Some are with band mates. Some are childhood pictures and the most recent were the ones he added of him with his first grandchild. The other computer shows the album covers of his extensive collection of songs. There’s roughly 12,000 songs stored on the computer, of every imaginable genre. I usually play the Beatles music while I’m packing orders because it’s my favorite, too.
It took me awhile to stop feeling immense, overwhelming grief each time I watched those pictures changing out every few moments. Eventually I began to actually feel a sense of comfort and decided it was a gift he left behind for me. He set these up years before he passed - isn’t it heartwarming to know he intentionally did this? It meant he would see pictures of himself with his family and friends while he worked at the office. He was grateful and kind and it’s so evident in every photo.
Thank you everyone for your continued support as my sister Shoshanah and I navigate the needs of the Forum and the Store. We’re in this for as long as you’ll have us. We do it lovingly in memory of our Dad.
Every day I start up each computer. When I walk away, each quickly enters “sleep mode”. Bob set each to have a carousel of photos as the “wallpaper”. The Store computer rotates through photos of Bob with friends and family. Some are with band mates. Some are childhood pictures and the most recent were the ones he added of him with his first grandchild. The other computer shows the album covers of his extensive collection of songs. There’s roughly 12,000 songs stored on the computer, of every imaginable genre. I usually play the Beatles music while I’m packing orders because it’s my favorite, too.
It took me awhile to stop feeling immense, overwhelming grief each time I watched those pictures changing out every few moments. Eventually I began to actually feel a sense of comfort and decided it was a gift he left behind for me. He set these up years before he passed - isn’t it heartwarming to know he intentionally did this? It meant he would see pictures of himself with his family and friends while he worked at the office. He was grateful and kind and it’s so evident in every photo.
Thank you everyone for your continued support as my sister Shoshanah and I navigate the needs of the Forum and the Store. We’re in this for as long as you’ll have us. We do it lovingly in memory of our Dad.
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It's taken me a long time to be able to listen to the Beatles without feeling that overwhelming grief, especially "Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band," which is what he wanted to listen to on his last day. When I first came back to Wisconsin after he died, it seemed like that album was playing everywhere, and it was so strange because it's just this old album. I don't remember ever hearing it around town before, on sound systems in cafes and stores. It was really hard to hear- but also, it made me feel like he was watching over me.Lori Lee Smith wrote:
It took me awhile to stop feeling immense, overwhelming grief each time I watched those pictures changing out every few moments. Eventually I began to actually feel a sense of comfort and decided it was a gift he left behind for me.
So, yesterday, I was thinking about that, and how I can actually hear the Beatles now and ALMOST feel okay.
Then, this morning, I went to a different cafe for coffee, and what was playing on the sound system? "Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da" Life goes on. Bitter sweet! Not from the Sgt. Peppers, but with its message, "life goes on," it once again made me feel like he was there, telling me it's okay to go on with my life. Which of course makes me really sad! Because he was always so kind and of course he would say that.
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Yes, a year and a week now. I think of b0b every time I'm on the forum, and lots of other times besides that. I miss his presence a lot. We only met in-person once, but he and I communicated frequently. B0b had a level of wisdom I only rarely see. I hope people realize how lucky we were to have him, and I also hope we can live up to his standards and spirit.
And yes - thank you Lori and Shoshanah for carrying on.
And yes - thank you Lori and Shoshanah for carrying on.
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Lori and Shoshanah:
Thank you for picking up the baton! This place remains a precious resource for us all and, thanks to you, b0b's presence is still very much felt.
Although he and I exchanged many emails, I never met him. I believe I saw b0b across the room at St Louis twenty-plus years ago but failed to capitalize and say 'hello'.
RIP, Bobby Lee.
Thank you for picking up the baton! This place remains a precious resource for us all and, thanks to you, b0b's presence is still very much felt.
Although he and I exchanged many emails, I never met him. I believe I saw b0b across the room at St Louis twenty-plus years ago but failed to capitalize and say 'hello'.
RIP, Bobby Lee.
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Thank you, Brad, for reminding us of this sad anniversary.
I miss Bob a lot.
I appreciate all of you who keep this great community thriving.
I miss Bob a lot.
I appreciate all of you who keep this great community thriving.
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While searching for some old information in my email inbox today, I came across my thread with b0b where he was helping me figure out the best D6/9 12 string tuning for my new Marlen using only a single raise or lower per string. He initiated the thread unbidden, and shared his time and wisdom generously. I still think of him every time I sit down to play, and find a wondrous and versatile tuning beneath my fingers.
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You ladies are doing a magnificent job, and thank you for continuing the high level of professionalism, you girls are awesome.
I only met b0b once and that was in Cody Wyoming around 2001 ish,i was playing a rodeo dance, and this fellow approached me and asked me if i'd ever heard of the 'Steel guitar forum' at that time i said No, he said his name was 'B0b' and he was on his way back to California and i should join his forum, i believe i did a few years later. Sure miss Ol b0b, we had some great discussions over the years.
I only met b0b once and that was in Cody Wyoming around 2001 ish,i was playing a rodeo dance, and this fellow approached me and asked me if i'd ever heard of the 'Steel guitar forum' at that time i said No, he said his name was 'B0b' and he was on his way back to California and i should join his forum, i believe i did a few years later. Sure miss Ol b0b, we had some great discussions over the years.
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Rest in God's grace b0b.
It's a little ironic that I have been off the forum for just about a year, and wanted to reunite. I thought about b0b often over the past year.
My heartfelt condolences Lori, and many thanks for continuing a great place to see old friends and meet new friends.
My best to you and Shoshana
It's a little ironic that I have been off the forum for just about a year, and wanted to reunite. I thought about b0b often over the past year.
My heartfelt condolences Lori, and many thanks for continuing a great place to see old friends and meet new friends.
My best to you and Shoshana

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I never have met B0b either. But I have heard many times on this forum what kind of giving person he was. I appreciate him more than ever because without B0b it would be a lot harder to get the information any player needs on this Forum. I am glad the Girls are embedded in this cause and wish them all the good luck going forward! We back you 100% on whatever you need!
Respectfully
Joe Bill Moad
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Respectfully
Joe Bill Moad
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