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Doug Earnest


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Branson, MO USA
Post  Posted 9 Sep 2019 6:05 am    
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Andy, I'm sorry for the loss of your son. Just a few days ago I was browsing all the pictures on your website thinking that the people over there seemed to be living a happy life.
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Andy DePaule


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Saigon, Viet Nam & Harrisburg, Oregon
Post  Posted 9 Sep 2019 8:06 am     Funeral is over now....
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Thank you to each and every one of you who sent good thoughts and such kindness.
It means so much to us.

We had over 200 seats at the funeral on Sunday, but that was not enough for all the family and friends that came. It was packed with those friends standing at the back and the overflow into the hall.

Many got up to reminisce and sometimes had me laughing and other times brought on the tears. I can only say if tears weighed much I'd be down to my desired 40 pound less weight after this week.

Because he will be entombed at the family plot in the Mekong Delta, Viet Nam we had to have him cremated. Something I was dreading, but when offered to be the one to push the three buttons. Better me than a stranger. Pushing those three buttons was one of the hardest things I'd ever done including my two tours losing friends in the old South Viet Nam. Seeing his 8 year old son and 15 year old daughter crying so hard wrenched my heart a few notches more.

I also rode in the hurst with the driver and Buddy. She was now working at that funeral home doing many jobs including embalming and preparing people for viewing. She had gone to school with Buddy and Sam, knew them both well, and with tears in her eyes said it was the hardest thing she had ever had to do. We both shared tears and memories of him during to long procession drive to the crematory.

It also turned out the the police motorcycle escort was led by Officer Coco who was also a friend of Buddy.

The songs "Will the circle be unbroken" and "I'll fly away" often ran through my head. I'll need to work those up on my steel when I get home. This was the first time I've traveled in many trips without my Clinesmith lap steel.

Once again, Thanks to you all for the kindness. I would answer each and every one, but it is just too difficult right now. Just know your thoughts and prayers were so very welcome.
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Jim Fogle


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Post  Posted 9 Sep 2019 4:14 pm     My Thoughts And Prayers To You And Your Family
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Andy,

I'm sorry to read about the sudden loss of your son, Buddy.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Jim Fogle
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Eddie Thomas


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Post  Posted 21 Sep 2019 4:36 am     Prayers and thoughts.
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Andy, I am sorry to be so late in commenting on this, but I don't check this section as often as I should. I am very sorry to hear this about your son. And I know your pain, for 11 years ago, I lost my son (age 33), my only child. And you are so right, there are no words to describe the pain and the emptiness you feel. My heart goes out to you, and I wish there was something I could say or do to help ease your pain, but there is not. This is something that you don't get over, you just learn to live with it. You will see him again. Take care my friend.
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Andy DePaule


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Saigon, Viet Nam & Harrisburg, Oregon
Post  Posted 21 Sep 2019 6:49 am     Thank you Eddie
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Thank you Eddie,
I also don't usually go on that thread very often.
Believe me, your messages as well as so many others is a huge help.
The fact you have had this happen to you also, my guess is you also found it far more difficult than other deaths of family and close friends?

Last Sunday there was a ceremony at the buddhist temple in Portland where his ashes will stay for three years before we take his remains to Viet Nam. But for all that I didn't feel like Buddy Lee was there in that urn.

It was a nice ceremony and the monk was a very nice down to earth kind of guy. Without us having started a conversation he said something to me when we were alone that really seemed to hit true. He told me Buddy was with me always where ever I go... I'd been feeling like I've been talking to him in my head often since it happened. Not sure if it's real or not, but it always seems like he is answering me in the responding thoughts that just seem to come to me.

Now and then it seems like I'm getting used to this new reality, but then something will happen or be said and it again feels just like the day I got the news. I sure do miss his physical presence. Just don't know. Today is three weeks.
My lady and I are going home to Saigon on Wednesday.
Thanks again,
Andy
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Dan Robinson


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Colorado, USA
Post  Posted 25 Sep 2019 11:05 am    
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Andy, my warmest condolences to you and your family on the passing of your son, Buddy.

I think the monk was right. Buddy is always with you, separated physically but not spiritually. I hope you find some comfort in that.
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Andy DePaule


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Post  Posted 25 Sep 2019 11:51 am     Thanks Dan
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Thanks Dan,
That seems right to me just now.
Gotta shut down my computer now as we are flying home today.
Best wishes,
Andy
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Clinesmith Joaquin Murphy style Aluminum 8 String Lap Steel Short A6th.
Clinesmith Joaquin Murphy style Aluminum 8 String Lap Steel Long E6/9th.
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Andy DePaule


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Post  Posted 2 Nov 2019 2:28 am     Been two months now
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Been two months now and still there is something several times each day to remind me of him.

There was a link to this youtube video by one of his cousins today on facebook.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rAbJSiwU4s&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR3N1gAH_Cowu3QO3L3C5r4dEUT4f_rua0P-sGJr3Z0Or4s7ejZUkDDeIXk

Think I'll just share these photos also... A glimpse of his life and then not comment any more.


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Seems like his life was way too short, but he sure left behind so many people who really loved him.
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Clinesmith Triple 8 Console, Birdseye Maple.
Clinesmith Joaquin Murphy style Aluminum 8 String Lap Steel Short A6th.
Clinesmith Joaquin Murphy style Aluminum 8 String Lap Steel Long E6/9th.
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Rick Barnhart


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Arizona, USA
Post  Posted 2 Nov 2019 6:22 am    
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Andy, your son was, and is still surrounded by love. He most certainly impacted many lives. I know the news of his passing has saddened many. You have friends you’ve never met, who think of you often.
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Neil Lang


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Albert Lea, Minnesota, USA
Post  Posted 7 Nov 2019 2:36 pm    
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Andy,
We are so saddened to hear this news. You have our thoughts and prayers. May he rest in peace.
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Stu Schulman


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Post  Posted 13 Nov 2019 12:20 am    
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My Condolences Andy.
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Andy Volk


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Boston, MA
Post  Posted 13 Nov 2019 1:40 pm    
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I somehow missed this, Andy. I am so sorry. As a father of two sons my heart goes out to you and what your family must be going through. Sincere condolences.
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